Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Happy 7th Anniversary!

Har, I got married on 9/11. Actually it was two years before the disastrous event in 2001. Sep 11, 1999 to be exact.

I can still remember dining out with my wife and enjoying ourselves that fateful night. You know the feeling of a second-year anniversary couple. Lovey-dovey. It was until we had reached home that we heard about the Twin Towers collapse on the news. Stunned, jaws dropping.

Time flies. 7 years. 7 blessed years!

Can you you believe it? Just a few blogs down, I was just commenting on how Rachel had grown into a lovely 'princess'.

To be truthful, getting hitched is the easy part. Getting married is slightly harder. Keeping the marriage healthy needs commitment. Having kids requires sacrifices. Plenty of sacrifices but worth every single minute.

We had lots of quarrels, arguments and personal opinions. In the beginning, at least. Nowadays, it hardly matters to me anymore. We've learnt to disagree in love. Keeps the sanity, I'd say. Hear that, dear?

It is no longer important who wins in an argument/quarrel. Now, it usually ends with me saying 'sorry', even if I am right. Even when she doesn't see the grey matter between my eyes and acknowledges that there is actually intelligence in it. Even when she knows she's outrightly, absolutely, without a doubt wrong.

For the sake of the marriage, the family and Rachel. And sanity, peace.

Even if I did win the argument (I rarely do), I cannot imagine sleeping together in our shared queen-sized bed. It's akin to sleeping with a bear having a sore head. You'll never know when it would turn around and bite your head off!

Funny thing is:
I actually love her for her guts and stubborn-ness. And usually wise advice. I said usually. I remember praying for a gal who loves the Lord, one who complements the weaknesses I have and one who can mentally and spiritually challenge me. That's right, a girl who voices her opinions truthfully.

You know how the Lord blesses - always in abundance. Boat-sinking, net-breaking, more than enough blessings. I got more than what I had bargained for.

*ahem* back to the topic. Our wedding rings have these verses engraved:
  1. Proverbs 18:22
    He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
  2. Psalms 32:8
    I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.

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7 years... wow! Do I feel itchy?

*grins*

8 comments:

House of rabbits said...

congrats on hanging on to 7 years together.
yeah, it's really tough for kids when parents scream and chew each other's head off.
it really hit home last month when tiger just went to her room and cried when we had one of those small silly squabbles.
actually, a lot of squabbles are quite petty and not important.
kids grow up fast nowadys, esp with those commercialism thingy.
makes me sound like an old geek.

mckenzy said...

how do engrave so many words on the rings? never thought about that... maybe next year on our tenth we'll get a new pair...

Kaffein said...

Dear mckenzy,
Our rings are very big and thick, you know the kind Ah-longs wear. With such rings, you will have enough space to write all those words.

Want me to introduce our goldsmith to you? His name is Ah-long San.

Actually, use your kidney... er brain to think. The only words engraved are the verse numbers, ie. PR 18:22 and PS 32:8.

Then again, this comment so tickled us just thinking about big, fat rings.

Xtralicious said...

Hey... congrats. Good to know there are people with good marriages.

Side note: Ah Long San!!! LOL

QQ*librarian said...

Congrats. It takes maybe only a minute to fall in love, but a lifetime to stay in love. Regarding the portion on arguments, I have my own views on how a wife can gently "correct" the husband. I've blogged that before in a posting last year, maybe if you have time, you can read about it.
http://qqlibrarian.blogspot.com/2005/10/i-want-to-marry-someone-my-equal.html

QQ*librarian said...

Congrats. It takes maybe only a minute to fall in love, but a lifetime to stay in love. Regarding the portion on arguments, I have my own views on how a wife can gently "correct" the husband. I've blogged that before in a posting last year, maybe if you have time, you can read about it.
http://qqlibrarian.blogspot.com/2005/10/i-want-to-marry-someone-my-equal.html

Anonymous said...

1 comment about your bed. Change to a king size bed. Got an extra foot of room.
hehe
:-)

Can't help you on the quarrel part though. Nor about that itch.

tiny digit said...

haha. my wife and I got married in June 1999, so that makes 2007 my 8th year too. Indeed time flies.
On our weddign rings, the following "are" written :
"In Christ We Love"
Happy belated and upcoming anniversary. (whar irony, 2 celebrations in 1 sentence)